Valentine’s Day often focuses on external love, but what if this year, you turned that love inward? What if you became your own greatest love story?
Loving yourself isn’t just a concept—it’s an experience, a daily practice of honoring who you are, embracing your worth, and nurturing your own soul. This Valentine’s, take the time to find your truest soulmate—yourself through these four powerful exercises.
1. Write a Love Letter to Yourself
Think of the way you would write to someone you love deeply. Now, turn that love toward yourself. Find a quiet space, light a candle, and pour your heart out in a letter to yourself.
- Include:
- What you admire about yourself.
- The strength you’ve shown through challenges.
- The dreams you still hold within you.
- A reminder that you are enough, exactly as you are.
Prompt: Start your letter with “Dear [your name], I want you to know…” and let the words flow.
Bonus: Read it aloud to yourself in the mirror. Notice how it feels to hear these words of love.
2. Get Acquainted with Yourself
Do you truly know yourself beyond the roles you play? Beyond what others expect of you? This exercise invites you to meet yourself anew, without judgment—just pure curiosity.
Try This: Sit with a mirror and gaze into your own eyes. Hold your own gaze, breathing deeply. Instead of looking for flaws, observe with love and curiosity.
Ask Yourself:
- “Who am I outside of what I do for others?”
- “What brings me joy when no one is watching?”
- “What do I need from myself right now?”
Let this moment be a gentle meeting of your soul.
3. Soothing Yourself with Gentle Self-Holding
Gentle Self-Holding is a self-soothing technique that uses gentle touch to calm the nervous system and instill feelings of safety and love.
Try This:
- Cross your arms and slowly stroke from your shoulders down to your elbows.
- Softly rub your palms together, as if washing your hands.
- As you do this, whisper loving affirmations to yourself:
- “I am safe.”
- “I am loved.”
- “I deserve to receive care and comfort.”
Breathe deeply and allow your body to feel held, supported, and deeply loved.
4. Journaling: 10 Questions to Deepen Self-Love
Self-love grows when we take time to reflect, listen to ourselves, and rewrite old beliefs that no longer serve us. Use these journaling prompts to explore and strengthen your relationship with yourself:
- What are three things I truly love about myself?
- In what ways do I already show myself love, and how can I deepen this?
- What do I long to hear from others that I can start saying to myself?
- How can I treat myself as my own soulmate every day?
- Where in my life do I withhold love from myself, and why?
- What parts of me have been waiting to be seen and accepted?
- If I loved myself fully, what choices would I make differently?
- How can I create more moments of joy and tenderness for myself?
- What is one loving promise I can make to myself today?
- How does it feel to know that I am already enough, exactly as I am?
- What are some small, everyday acts of self-care I can start doing for myself?
- What past experiences or beliefs about love do I need to release in order to love myself fully?
- How can I show myself compassion in moments when I feel unworthy or insecure?
- What would it look like if I fully embraced and celebrated my uniqueness?
Write with honesty. Your answers will reveal where love is needed most within you.
Final Thoughts: Becoming Your Own Soulmate
This Valentine’s, let self-love be your foundation. When you love yourself deeply, you attract love that reflects that same energy.
Remember:
- You are already whole.
- You are worthy of your own affection.
- You deserve to receive love—not just from others, but from yourself first.
This isn’t just for Valentine’s Day—this is the start of a lifelong love affair with yourself.
Will you say yes to loving yourself today?